So you like this girl. Shes down to earth, pretty, a nice girl and all, and lucky for you, you both talk and have been for sometime. You know that she likes her fries soggy and she has a sweet tooth! You both share stuffs and are comfortable with each other. Friends is the equation you have w her, BUT that's all it will ever be.
Cuss what she also tells you is, when she thinks she likes this other boy. Baam! There you are, just another victim of being 'Friendzoned.' That aches, doesn't it? After all th efforts you put in to woo and impress her, you end up as just one of her "good guy friend." Yes, I have heard my friends complain about this too many times.
Hold on! It might not necessarily all that bad right? I mean after all something is better than nothing. Rather than just wondering if it woulda worked out w her, at least you tried innit? And theres more to being friendzoned than it appears to be. I aint no pro, but lemme enlighten you a little about what goes on in a girl's mind when she decides to put you in her 'Good guy friend' list. (I admit I do this alot. Haha!)
So,
1. She adores you.
Didn't see this one coming eh? Yes, believe it lads! She finds you sweet and funny. She enjoys your company and th comfort level that you guys have is beyond amazing. She likes you alot and if she wishes, it could be one helluva potential relationship.
Look at this image. This is exactly what I mean. She knows if you guys go down the road, you'll be lovers for sure. But thats where th denial comes in. It may be tempting but she's holding back.
Wait. Its not you, its her. There is probably some strong factor thats stopping her from falling any where near love w you and she's dead sure it will never work out w you in th future. Be it age/status/religious/family/health issues or whatever.
So th next best solution? Friendzoned!
2. She just went through a bad break up.
Lets face it. After a break up, we all have that notion "They are all th same". She's in that grieving period and anything close to dating would only cause her barf reflexes to act up. She's just being nice to not ignore you completely and have you as a friend. Again its not you, its her. Give her some time, stay friends w her but drop subtle hints along th way. Be patient w this one. And if it goes according to plan and she lets you in, Don't break her!
3. She's being friendzoned as well.
You talk to her about football, about the chicks you find hot, about how your night went w the boys and all the beers you chugged down. This time, its you boys. Not her. Have you ever thought maybe you'r the one friendzone-ing her? Don't get me wrong though, it is completely fine to tell her everything about you. But if you have something called 'feelings' fr her, why you hidin' dude? How in th world would she have any clue as to what goes in your head. Or heart for that matter. Damn, boys can be ambiguous I tell you. After that, then you can gauge where you stand on her friend-o-meter. Brace yourself.
4. She is clearly not into you.
Th down right obvious! You need a reality check if this never struck you. This one is where no matter how much hints you give her, how flirtatious you are, the number of times you tried to ask this girl out, it's always gonna be a 'No'. I hate to break to you honey, but she's clearly not into you. Atleast not romantically. My advice? Stop all the flirting, and act like a friend. If not you won't even be close to it.
See! I told you. Being friendzoned isn't all that bad is it? Some times its just th circumstances that moulds our thoughts. They might not apply to all of you but I hope it helps you get a better picture of why and how it comes about. Come to think of it, this could be in th case of boys as well. We get put in that zone too y'know! And even if it doesn't work out between you guys, keep em around cuss no one ever said having friends is harmful. Plus they know you inside out and you'll have one more person to count on.
Thanks fr reading y'all! :)
Cuss what she also tells you is, when she thinks she likes this other boy. Baam! There you are, just another victim of being 'Friendzoned.' That aches, doesn't it? After all th efforts you put in to woo and impress her, you end up as just one of her "good guy friend." Yes, I have heard my friends complain about this too many times.
Hold on! It might not necessarily all that bad right? I mean after all something is better than nothing. Rather than just wondering if it woulda worked out w her, at least you tried innit? And theres more to being friendzoned than it appears to be. I aint no pro, but lemme enlighten you a little about what goes on in a girl's mind when she decides to put you in her 'Good guy friend' list. (I admit I do this alot. Haha!)
So,
1. She adores you.
Didn't see this one coming eh? Yes, believe it lads! She finds you sweet and funny. She enjoys your company and th comfort level that you guys have is beyond amazing. She likes you alot and if she wishes, it could be one helluva potential relationship.
Wait. Its not you, its her. There is probably some strong factor thats stopping her from falling any where near love w you and she's dead sure it will never work out w you in th future. Be it age/status/religious/family/health issues or whatever.
So th next best solution? Friendzoned!
2. She just went through a bad break up.
Lets face it. After a break up, we all have that notion "They are all th same". She's in that grieving period and anything close to dating would only cause her barf reflexes to act up. She's just being nice to not ignore you completely and have you as a friend. Again its not you, its her. Give her some time, stay friends w her but drop subtle hints along th way. Be patient w this one. And if it goes according to plan and she lets you in, Don't break her!
3. She's being friendzoned as well.
You talk to her about football, about the chicks you find hot, about how your night went w the boys and all the beers you chugged down. This time, its you boys. Not her. Have you ever thought maybe you'r the one friendzone-ing her? Don't get me wrong though, it is completely fine to tell her everything about you. But if you have something called 'feelings' fr her, why you hidin' dude? How in th world would she have any clue as to what goes in your head. Or heart for that matter. Damn, boys can be ambiguous I tell you. After that, then you can gauge where you stand on her friend-o-meter. Brace yourself.
4. She is clearly not into you.
Th down right obvious! You need a reality check if this never struck you. This one is where no matter how much hints you give her, how flirtatious you are, the number of times you tried to ask this girl out, it's always gonna be a 'No'. I hate to break to you honey, but she's clearly not into you. Atleast not romantically. My advice? Stop all the flirting, and act like a friend. If not you won't even be close to it.
See! I told you. Being friendzoned isn't all that bad is it? Some times its just th circumstances that moulds our thoughts. They might not apply to all of you but I hope it helps you get a better picture of why and how it comes about. Come to think of it, this could be in th case of boys as well. We get put in that zone too y'know! And even if it doesn't work out between you guys, keep em around cuss no one ever said having friends is harmful. Plus they know you inside out and you'll have one more person to count on.
Thanks fr reading y'all! :)
